An addendum! (yes, I'm still thinking about this post.) For further non-fiction reading you may want to look into the issue of gender and chatbots/personal assistant AIs. Blanket TW for sexism, but this is where we're starting to see gender interact with artificial intelligence, and the ways it cleaves to and/or rejects social norms is as problematic as it is interesting.
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Some places to start:
Siri, Cortana, Alexa, Marcus. Do bots really need a gender?
The truth about gender-neutral bots
Designing a chatbot: male, female or gender neutral?
When Robots Are An Instrument Of Male Desire